One of the most common causes for the failure of many erotic dates is the fact that one or both lovers are ignorant regarding some essential aspects of eroticism. In the following, we present some of these...

Never Go Directly To Intercourse

A man does not need too much preparation for an erotic act to begin. He just needs to look at his partner, touch and embrace her and bum! he is ready for intercourse.

A woman needs the so-called foreplay (the man also, sometimes). Many men think that prelude is something limited to a kiss, a touch of her breasts and that's about it... It is true that there are women with greater sexual appetite, who are easily excitable. They can skip that preparative, but not necessarily always. However, most women need a lot of small "attentions" to lead them to pleasure.

What is Prelude?

Prelude implies many things, each according to the specific needs and moods of a given couple. Fortunately, there is no such thing as a standard recipe for all couples. But there are a few rules that you should keep in mind if you want to offer and to receive pleasure.

Lovemaking Requires a Special Atmosphere

It's not about turning your room into a theatre scene. Some details would be enough to love making. For example, relaxing, pleasant music, a bouquet of flowers, candles, incense sticks, etc.

The bedroom has to be more than merely a place to sleep. With some effort, a lot of thought and care, even the most "ordinary" bedroom can become a love nest with all the positive effects derived from this.

Each of the two should get close to the other. You shouldn't expect that he does all the work… The way you unbutton his shirt can have a very important and sexy effect on your lover's appetite. Moreover, the woman can turn this simple act of taking her clothes off into a ritual of abandoning herself for the real, cosmic and pure love, which may grant her lover happiness and self-content.

You Should Communicate Through Words

You should whisper...but what? Not words that you've read from books, of course, but tender words from the bottom of your heart. Women receive happily and with emotion her lover's tender and admiring remarks, words that are meant to encourage and also to create a more intimate atmosphere between the two.

Undoubtedly, your smell should be fresh, clean, discrete perfume. To smell good is a matter of elegance and refinement. Moreover, from a traditional point of view, perfume is considered a magical love potion. From the very beginning, the creation of perfume was inspired by the complex relationship, the desire, and the passion between man and woman.

If one of you comes up with a new, and perhaps kind of unusual idea about engaging an erotic play and the other is reticent, you should be understanding and give that idea up immediately. Otherwise not only your honeymoon is ruined, but your whole relationship might also be affected. But you might try a sensual massage or lovemaking without intercourse.

Don't Be Skimpy With Your Kisses!

They are, along with your caresses, the essential part of the sexual prelude. Become a master of kissing is our advice for a wonderful foreplay.

You Should Know How To Caress

Caresses turn on the skin's sexual sensitivity of both partners. Be careful! Touching or massaging (lightly!) the erogenous zones should take place in light, small, rhythmical motions! We have something for you regarding this subject, too:

•  Express your partner by sensual touching.

•  Massage - The touch of love.

• Using oils and essences for erotic massage.

• Sensual touches.

• Essential oils for lovers.

• Pleasure Points.

The Breasts

Women's breasts are not only an essential attribute of femininity, but also the richest, most subtle and most sensitive instrument of erotic emotions. Caressing and tickling the nipples makes all the nervous reflexes come to life and prepares the genitals for the sexual act itself. The more delicate the caress, the stronger the effect.

Brutal caresses paralyze the woman's sensitivity, instead of exciting her, just like a powerful sound makes you deaf for a while. There might be an exception: for women who have corpulent body hard pinch might have results as good as delicate caresses.

Sometimes, when very excited, some men have the tendency of squeezing the woman's breasts painfully and biting them as if they were apples. These men should not forget that excited breasts are as sensitive to traumas as their own testicles. So do not bite your partner's breasts and do not squeeze them hard, unless, of course, asked to.

 Fragmented Urination - One Of The Secret Methods Of Controlling

Sexual Energy

In Tantric Buddhism and Taoism, initiated people control their ejaculation completely by using special secret techniques. This process requires absolute genital-urinary control..

Taoists consider that urine and sweat are the manifestations of certain energies that must be controlled and beneficially orientated by the human being. Wise people considered that those who have control over their urinary potential also have control over their sexual potential.

There are three very simple, but efficient methods through which you can get control over the sexual and urinary potential:

In reference to this connection between the urinary and genital systems, it is common that the embryo has, till the fourth month of development, the same urinary and genital apparatus. They use this same type of tissue even when they grow and develop into an individual.

It is also worth mentioning that men find control of the urination process harder as they grow older and lose their sexual vigor; most of them having a prostate problem. Studies have reached the conclusion that men who have an irregular sexual life and who ejaculate frequently, are the most predisposed to prostate diseases, to urinary incontinence and renal infections.

1. First method consists of fragmented urination, which means urinating in very short jets with a few seconds pause in between. The pause has to be long enough so that the urine flow stops completely. In the beginning there will be thrills through your body, especially up your spine. They will feel too strong for the weak ones. These thrills are nothing else but a manifestation of the energy transmuted because of the firm and strong contractions of the urinary sphincters. Certain texts suggest that this energy (these "thrills") must be visualized and directed up the spine to the zone in the middle of the forehead.

2. Second method, called the 'short urine retention' is stronger: when you feel the need to urinate you will relax the urinary sphincters and contract them immediately and firmly before the urine comes out of the bladder. It's a method that requires very good control and at first should be practiced only in the toilet. Exercises are usually done before urination (fragmented). Obviously we should approach it gradually, without forcing it.

These two techniques are very efficient and should be practiced at each urination; transforming the common act of urination into a part of our daily training to harmonize our sexual energy, to obtain control or to maintain a perfect state of health and vigor.

Effects

• A better control over the creative and vital energy of the human.
• Amplifying of the Yang energy inside the being (solar, masculine, of control).
• Increasing and refreshing the whole organism.
• Increasing your will power.
• Easily maintaining erotic continence.

By fragmenting the flow as many as 70 times in every urination for three weeks you will advantageously improve a lot of affections and genital-urinary dysfunctions, also you will notice an increased and more harmonious sexual appetite.

If the resulted energy from the transmutation of the urinary potential is directed and visualized as moving up the spine to ajna chakra you will notice an increase in your mental capacities, your ability to focus and concentrate. Here are some other secrets about fragmented urination and short urinary retention:

When you feel tired after an involuntary loss of sexual potential through ejaculation, fragment your urine in as many jets as you can (ideally more than 70 times), during the technique relax your body and feel the energetic thrills. You will feel fully refreshed.

In order to improve your sleep, eliminate bad dreams and nightmares, shorten the sleeping period and eliminate tiredness in the morning, use urine fragmentation or the technique of urinary retention before going to sleep.

In order to use these two techniques evoke a state of will and firmness before using them.

Use spine elongations and abdominal retractions as preparatory exercises; they are meant to purify the energetic channels through which the resulted energy will come.

3. Third method: a quarter of an hour or an hour before making love drink water (or an infusion or juice) in a large quantity (over 1 liter is best) so that during sexual intercourse you will need to urinate. While you make love try to relax the urinary sphincters and the whole abdominal zone as you would want to urinate. You can do that without any risk, because it is practically impossible to urinate at that moment (the way the muscles of the penis act when erect do not allow the urine to come out). In a few minutes you will feel that the energy goes up easily and spontaneously. It is possible for some extremely pleasant thrills and an intense state of erotic and affective effervescence to appear. This state can be prolonged for as long as you want by relaxing the sphincters and the inferior abdominal zone.

Beginners especially, have the tendency to be very contracted during intercourse because of their desire to have more control, which is wrong. In fact the more the genitals are relaxed the easier it is for the energy to move up, to control and circulate.

By practicing these techniques during intercourse, control can easily be accomplished. Much tension and inner stress can be eliminated by these exercises. Also, these exercises are very useful for obtaining control over the inferior abdominal zone, which is one of the hardest zones to control.

After studying a great number of patients with disabilities and psychic disturbances, specialists said that almost all their muscles are strongly contracted. They discovered that in accordance with the improvement of the symptoms there was a corresponding physical muscular relaxation.

Thus they were able to medically prove what initiates have known for thousand of years; that any psycho-mental tension, sexual repression or inhibition is "translated" by our organism into involuntary genital contractions.

Further than this they noticed that through the relaxation and control over the inferior abdominal muscles and genital muscles there is a corresponding improvement in the psycho - mental life of the human.

One question: if relaxing the genitals is useful, then why do they recommend certain contractions, like the contraction of the urinary sphincters?

The answer is that when the relaxation is perfectly controlled then the efficiency of the contractions is maximized.

Let us compare them to a ball that must be pushed in a certain direction. The ball is the erotic energy, the direction is up the spine and the force that moves the ball is one of these contractions. If, for example, the pelvic contraction is very strong and the rest of the body is relaxed, the energy will be pushed up as the ball is. If you add other involuntary contractions from many different groups of abdominal muscles the effect is a lot weaker. Just like the ball would move chaotically under the impulse of several forces

Harmoniously alternating contraction and relaxation is one of the best - known secrets of the Taoist art of love. The connection between the inner mental, emotional state and the exterior manifestations during intercourse become obvious. Controlling these techniques means a lot more than mechanically conforming to rules, is a sign of harmony and inner force. 

By practicing Oriental erotic techniques a new, lucid and sincere universe opens up to the user, a universe that was not even thought of, what greater joy could you offer to a woman than to put the whole universe at her disposal.